A post on IG by Esssence Festival got me really thinking as a Mom, as a Wife and as a Mompreneur. It was a speech given by the former 1st Lady, Michelle Obama. She spoke on how we as women, as moms, as caregivers fail to take care of ourselves after taking care of everyone. We somehow feel guilty of doing so. Why do we think that it’s selfish of us to INDULGE a little?
As moms and wives, we push to take care of the household and make sure everyone is happy and cared for, while we sit and suffer in silence. We too need a break- A Kit Kat Moment. But somehow, we have been poisoned into thinking that taking a day or few hours out of a day to care for our well being is somehow selfish. I had to learn the hard way. I cannot do it all. It really does take a village to raise a child/children. I know this is easier said than done, for a myriad of reasons. I have been blessed to be able to have my mother around who willing offers to watch the kids, if ever I feel burnt out or the nanny is not around.
Being a SAHM, WAHM doesn’t equate to suffering alone and being so drained you don’t even brush your teeth or shower before hoping into bed, or being so tired after a kids bedtime wrestling match that you skip eating dinner. When does it stop??? To be honest…It stops when you want it to. YUUP!! We have to make a conscious effort to care for ourselves. Michelle (cuz you know, we besties) was so right… we have to open up the conversation and normalize moms taking a moment to just refresh ourselves. If we don’t care for ourselves, how can we actively and happily care for our family?
So after months of introspection….I have come to realize that all it takes for me to recuperate is just a few hours of rest and relaxation BY MYSELF uninterrupted. So whatever that means for you, work on it. If you need some tips on how to be more productive…Click here.